“I’m not sure the perfect person is out there because no one is perfect. Every marriage has things that need to be worked on.”
Their friendship blossomed when they met during the Alpha Course in London, with Anna as a participant and Luke as a facilitator. Originally from Dublin, Ireland, Anna had moved to London to pursue a degree in musical theatre while Luke had left Norwich to study music in London. When they met, they both felt a strong chemistry simmering beneath the surface of their friendship, but neither of them tried to kindle anything until a year and a half later when Luke finally decided it was time to ask her out officially. They dated for six months before he proposed.
“People say marriage is like putting a mirror up to yourself, where you see all the bad things about yourself,” Luke chuckled. “It’s a huge learning experience in seeing the areas you need to work on in life. It’s a great way of practicing service – to serve one another,” he continued. “Husbands are meant to love their wives as Christ loves the church, and it’s a pretty huge task. There’s a lot to learn in that.”
Most young Christians have their minds wrapped around the idea that God has prepared a perfect person out there for each one, so they spend their lives worrying that they might miss out on meeting their Mr. or Mrs. Right. Or they worry that marrying the wrong person might result in an imperfect marriage. But the Hellebronths have a different perspective.
“I’m not sure there is just one person. I think God makes the best of everything, and if your heart and motives are right, God is able to do anything with a relationship,” Luke said. “He’s able to redeem all sorts of things and make them new. So I’m not sure there’s the perfect person out there because no one is perfect. Every marriage has things that need to be worked on.”
“I agree,” Anna nodded. “I think people come into your path at particular times and you can just feel that perhaps, it is really special. A good marriage is friendship for us. Laugh, love, do life together based on a really good friendship. There’ll always be things that go wrong, but if you’re committed to that friendship, it’ll withstand a lot.”
Serving Together As A Couple
Drawing from their experiences, the duo believes that it’s vital to keep friendship at the heart of everything, while getting a good balance on working life.
“It’s important to make sure you set enough time aside to be together, away from work and ministry and get in that rhythm where you can just switch off,” Luke said. “Holidays are important. Try to fit some fun in by making memories away from just ministry and work.”
“I really respect Luke as a leader,” Anna added. “He has gifts that I don’t have, and we need each other in the team. It’s important to respect what God has put in him, and give it space where it’s needed.”
Marriage isn’t a breezy stroll in the park, and while serving as a couple poses its challenges, the Hellebronths feel privileged for the opportunity to experience life and ministry together.
“Serving together is so much fun,” Anna smiled. “It’s just a real privilege to be able to travel together and do ministry together. Two are always better than one. We complement each other and we’re strong when we lead together.”